we often refuse to accept an idea merely because of the tone of the voice in which it has been expressed unsympathetic to us; Even if is our beloved one, and sometimes it cause frictions from both parties. Am talking from a personal experience!

Once I realized opinions aren’t facts, I immediatly stop worrying about what people think about myself; It took me some time, but I did it (I hope so)! And I want you to do the same, why?

I can’t tell you how many times I wanted to give up my research on it,
It’s extremely difficult to dedicate yourself to studying topics and include them in your daily habits. On several occasions I’ve literally thrown my hands up and
said: “I quit. It’s too hard. There are so many cool things to study. I want out of
this!”

But hey, I survived!

How many times you heard people talk about courage and love
and compassion?

they sound like a greeting card store, but I want to tell you something untill we’re
willing to have an honest conversation about what gets in the way of putting
these into practice in our daily lives, we will never change. Never, ever.

What I love about Chödrön’s definition is her honesty about the vulnerability
of practicing compassion; she addresses our tendency to self-protect by teaching that we must be
honest and forgiving about how we shut down.

Let’s be clear! Is not my place to give you a ready-made tips and definition of concepts we face every moment of life; it depends totally on you to decide how to embrace them.

Here I’ll show you what love, compassion and vulnability means to me, that’s all!

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

theodore roosevelt

The first time I’ve read this quote, I remember was from Roosevelt, I was in class at that time; I thought, This is vulnerability. Everything I’ve learned from researches on vulnerability has taught me this exact lesson. Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging; vulnerability is not weakness, the uncertainty or emotional exposure we face every day.

Our only choice and task is a question of engagement, our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear.

When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect before we walk into the famous arena, we just sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we loose our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts.

Being ‘Perfect’ is seductive, but it don’t exist in the human experience. We [me,you and others] must walk into the arena, whatever it may be—a new relationship, an important meeting, or a difficult family conversation—with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines and hurling judgment and advice, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen. This is vulnerability.

Now you may ask yourself ‘where love and compassion are located’?

Love is everywhere is the internal essence of the human experience. The second element of true love is compassion. Compassion is the capacity to understand the suffering in oneself and in the other person. If you understand your own suffering, you can help the other to understand its suffering. Understanding
suffering brings compassion and relief,and most of alla gratification. So you can transform your own suffering and help transform the suffering of the other person with the practice of
mindfulness and looking deeply.

I never said is easy, you’ll face hardships, sometimes you’ll give up, but the motto is: ‘Tomorrow is another day’.

keep challenging youself, untill you find your balance.

see you soon,

sal