Unfortunately, low confidence has a tendency to immobilize us. When you doubt yourself and your abilities, the last thing you want to do is put yourself out there to fall flat on your face. It’s much
easier to remain in the safe confines of the status quo and not expose yourself to
the possibility of failure or rejection.

There’s a reason our confidence has taken a hit. It could be a legitimate reason,
like recently getting fired or suffering from acute shyness. Or it could be some
relatively minor event from the past that no longer applies to you—but it has
grown to huge proportions in our mind, and you keep feeding this giant with negative thoughts.

Either way, our immediate or distant past doesn’t define us now or our future
potential. Change and growth are always possible when we are motivated and
determined, regardless of our past, our personality, or our self-perceptions. If
we want to be confident, we can be—if we’re willing to take action. And not
just one action or a few actions, but repeated actions until fear and doubt no
longer have a grip on us.

Take action

All success begins with thought and culminates in action. It is possible action
will result in failure, but inaction always leads to nothing—guaranteed. An
essential component of confidence is the ability to be comfortable with the
uncertainty of action and the sting of failure. Failure will happen once or twice.
Sometimes it happens many times.

The fear of failure and rejection is the only thing standing between us and
confidence. The only way to beat that fear is to take action on the very thing
that holds us back towards our goals. It doesn’t take much in the beginning. Small,
manageable actions in the direction of our goals and dreams are enough to set off the process. Every successful small action will give us an immediate boost of confidence to try again. Even setbacks can show us the value of action and reinforce our ability to break through inertia and fear.

Make your personal boundaries

It’s hard to be confident in a relationship when you have no boundaries.
Sometimes we avoid boundaries because we aren’t confident. We fear the person
we care about will leave us or get angry if we stand up for ourselves or have
needs. Solid boundaries reflect confidence and increase the respect of those around you. They are necessary not only for the health of the relationship, but also for your own self-esteem. Setting and
enforcing boundaries, even if it makes others upset or angry, will give you a
huge boost of confidence, because you have the self-respect to know what you
want and to require others to respect your wishes.

Learn relationship communication skills.

The communication is the foundation for everything. We don’t only use it as a device to share ideas, but also made us able to articulate our feelings, fears in an honest and kind way, the relationship can flourish and grow. This vulnerability and authenticity is necessary for both people to feel safe and fully accepted. When we don’t communicate our needs and discuss our differences honestly and freely, the relationship will inevitably break down. Healthy communication also requires active listening with your full attention and an open mind. The most successful relationships involve proactive communication. However, conflict is inevitable, and conflict resolution should include collaborative problem solving and a mutual commitment to resolution without bitterness and recrimination.

see you soon,

sal.